思考的盲点 -- 中国人爱面子

Kind of busy recently due to the preparation of my trip to Australia~~ Nothing special happened, so, moved another old MSN blog to here again, which was written on Oct 21, 2007.

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October 21, 2007

思考的盲点 -- 中国人爱面子
Read a book recently, title "思考的盲点", written by a Hongkonger "陶国璋". This book is viewed from a mix perspective of "Psychology" & "Philosophy", and explained what usual 思考的盲点 for a person.

It has a few sentences talking about why Chinese people always talking abou "Mian Zi" comparatively to Westerners. It written:

"社会的结构越紧密，人与人之间越交往多，这种面子，门面心态越重。 因此我们留意到东方社会，如中国，日本，印度，东南亚等国家，因为人伦关系密切，以致特别重视名牌，追上潮流，以便有面子， 门面。相对而言，西方社会中，个体意识较强，门面问题就较为平淡。"

And sometimes such belief is seeded when we were young. When we were young(teenagers), we were trained to get the 认同 from your parents, pals, teachers, etc. And which we would try to project the way they like, so, when you wear the particular similar type of dress/clothes, you will be treated as "自己人" and will gained the "地位 * 认同" among the group, so, when will group older and older, your belief of this will become stronger and stonger.

This book also have some other good point of discussion, for example "权力". Sometimes, i don't quite understand why some working people like to have 权力 in their workplace as this may not give them any profit nor goodwill (while may only burden their workload). But this book has a minor part explaining this under the sub-topic of 投射式认同:

“权”是个人意志的伸延； 每当我们能控制，指使别人，即表示我们的意志擴展了开去。 男孩特别喜欢舞刀弄剑，是因为刀，剑好像延长了我们的手臂，能及于更远的事物，这就是一种意志伸延的象征。故此，权力欲强的人，是投过控制他人的意志，来认同自己的实在性，亦是一种投射的心理要求

Haha, 我又有無聊新玩意!!!

Many of my friends know that i always have a lot of stupid(無聊) plans and ideas.


Haha, today, i found an old book in a grocery(only $6) that awake my 無聊's nerve again~~ It is a book published in 1991 and it teaches how to carve vegetables, such as birds, butterfly, lobster, flowers, gold-fish, etc~~~


Hahah, maybe 30 years later after I retire, this skill may help me to earn some money~~~~


Hey, to all my friends, tell me what animal you want me to carve!!!! ^o^

A Book -- You Can Heal Your Life

Nothing special, just want to write some comments on a book that recently read. It is called "You Can Heal Your Life", written by Louise L. Hay.

I didn't read this book in details, i just scan it pages and pages. Basically, the most interesting part of this book is that it has a full chart, saying that each physical illness probably caused by some psychological thoughts. Let me list below some few physical illness & the probable causes:

Physical problem --> Probable Cause --> New Thought Pattern
1. Problem of "Ance"
-- Probable Cause: Not accepting the self I am a Divine expression of life. Dislike of the self.
-- New Thought Pattern: I love and accept where I am right now

2. Problem of "Ageing problem"
-- Probable Cause: Social beliefs. Old thinking. Fear of being one' self. Rejection of the now
-- New Thought Pattern: I love and accept myself at every age. Each moment in life is perfect

3. Problem of "Allergies"
-- Probable Cause: Who are you allergic to? Denying your own power
-- New Thought Pattern: The world is safe and friendly. I am safe. I am at peace with life

4. Problem of "Stiff neck"
-- Probable Cause: Unbending bullheadedness
-- New Thought Pattern: It is safe to see other viewpoints

5. Problem of "Shoulders"
-- Probable Cause: Represent our ability to carry out experiences in life joyously. We make life a burden by our attitude
-- New Thought Pattern: I choose to allow all my experiences to be joyous and loving

6. Problem of "Paiin"
-- Probable Cause: Guilt. Guilt always seeks punishment
-- New Thought Pattern: I lovingly release the past. They are free and I am free. All is well in my heart now


Although I don't think all the physical illness is correlated to a probably mental cause, but, it is right to a certain extend.

Hhehee, my good friend recently has the problem of "Bronchitis", i checked this book that: the Probable-Cause of this is "Inflamed family environment. Arguments and yelling. Sometimes silent". And the New-Thought-Pattern should be "I declare peace and harmony within me and around me. All is well".

I should tell her this!!!! ^_~

Topic on Image

I was happy that my ex-supervisor(She was my supervisor when i worked as a part-time helper in Bell Canada) invited me to attend a workshop on "Image" yesterday (Apr 19). This workshop was very practical to our daily-lives, which i would like to share some of his points here.

This 2-hour workshop was conducted by the president of ImageDeMonde (www.demonde.net). This workshop focus about "Corporate Fashion", and he shared a lot of his experience and advices to the audience. Here below some of his advice that is very practical and useful to our daily-lives:

-- Corporate Fashion 分3个level: 1) Corporate, 2) Business Appropriate, & 3) Business Casual. 用来区分Corporate 和 Business Appropriate主要是以条"呔"的Contrast去区分
-- Business Appropriate的呔的contrast应该要少一点。一般来说，呔的contrast越少，energy level越低，色彩对比度越低
-- 选择西装和恤衫的主要考虑是需要配合面形；特别需要注意颈部与恤衫领口的比例
-- 圆点越细的呔越成熟

If get the chance, I am for sure will attend his workshop next time.

Trip at Taipei

Didn't update my blog for awhile coz' kind of busy at work recently~~

I was in Taipei last week due to work reason, Taipei looks the same and didn't have much change. I was so happy and appreciated that my Taiwan friend took a 4 hours train from 花莲 to visit me; we didn't see each other for almost 3 years since our last met in Spain. We chatted a lot and we still have many ever-ending topics~~ Next time, i should spend a few days to visit her at 花莲 and by the way should take a visit at the national-park of "太鲁阁"~~

My friend took me to the flower-market in Taipei, the agricultural-science of Taiwan is so so amazing (actually, "agricultural-science" & "electronics" are the most famous industry in Taiwan), they can develop some unique flowers and grass that doesn't need to put it in soil nor water, you only need to spray some water to the roots from time to time, then, it grows!!!!

I didn't take many photos this time coz' most of the time there are work. Haha, but it is so cute that there is a Hello-Kitty borading-gate found at Taipei airport.

(the 柯仔煎蛋，珍珠奶茶 & 铁板蛋炒饭，好好味!!! just HK$35)

Haha, a pair of winter furry boots for HK$25

i was looking long for a pair of winter furry boots, for my study-trip this summer in Australia (ie. winter time in Australia). Haha, i got it finally at a grocery outlet shop near my home~~~ only HK$25!!!

It is not used nor 2nd hand item, it is a brand new item!! It starts at $60 one month ago (puerly white without any dirts), now, it has some dirts on it after some people tried-on, so, it reduces to only $25 ~~~ My budget!!! ^o^

I love to shop at this grocery outlet from time to time. This grocery outlet basically run by a non-profitable organization, and the items here are donated by comercial or individuals, so, i sometime could found good items here~~ My last item bought at here is a Chinese style furry jacket, which was only HK$80...

hahaha, don't call me "cheap skate"!!! ^_~

Trip to 韶关(in China)

i travelled to 韶关 during this Easter Holidays.... 韶关 is at most northern part of GuangDong province and it took 5 hours speedy-bus from Shenzhen(top up a 2 hours travelling from HK to Shenzhen = a total of 7 hours to me.....u_u).

韶关 is not a big city and is not too special to visit; the 南华寺 and 丹霞山 are the only place worth to see. Although 丹霞山 basically is mini-size of 张家界, the landscape there is still very beautiful....there is a penis-like's rock there and local people believe that they can get baby-boy if pray for this rock. Hahaha, i also pray for it, let see if i will get a baby-boy~~~

a Christian Church found in the centre of the city and it is so interesting that there is a rolling-gate of the Church....

i didn't buy many things, only 2 kg of dried fish....my mom love it very much~~~ ^_^